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The Daily Universe

A new study shows that most college-age Americans aren’t sure whether or not to sit at the grown-up’s table.

BYU professor Larry Nelson in the Marriage, Family, and Human Development Department and Carolyn McNamara Barry of Loyola College in Maryland joined together and completed a study which shows that most 18 to 25 year old individuals do not consider themselves adults...

Some BYU students are not sure if they are adult or not.

Dean Roggia, a 24-year-old senior double majoring in Italian and philosophy said, “I’m not a boy, not yet a man.”

Roggia said society plays an influence on his adult status.

“I don’t feel like I am adult because this society at BYU tells me I’m not,” Roggia said. “First of all, I have to attend classes where teachers take a grade on attendance and I feel like my legal guardians have now become the school and the Honor Code.”

... Nelson said he thinks that having responsibilities helps a person achieve the internal criteria that establishes one as an adult.

Personally, I feel just as much a kid as I did 10 years ago. There's definitely some aspect of adulthood that I still fail to comprehend, but I'm not quite sure what it is. And, though I value youth, I'm not sure that it's a good thing to feel this way.

I was always a responsible kid, so at least I've got that going for me.

Here's another thought: For a long time I've had a personal goal to never lose the flexibility, open-mindedness, and humor of a kid. Could this be what's "holding me back"? Is there something I'm missing out on by not having graduated to adulthood?

And how do I know when I'm feeling like an adult, anyway? Maybe I already do and just don't know it.

Good and Bad

I definitely am torn as to whether I want to be an adult or not. Both have good and bad things associated with them. I have only recently turned the age where the government considers me legal. I feel like a kid sometimes because of the way I act and how much little things tend to amuse me. But then again, when I became completely, 100% financially independent I felt like a grown-up. I have always been a weird kid that thrived on responsibility, but I still would like to be known as a youngster at times.

Being a kid is easier because

Being a kid is easier because you can blame mistakes on immaturity. People will pass things off by saying "oh they are young and don't know what they are doing"

However, as an adult I have more responsibilities (which I enjoy) and with those responsibilities come more opportunities.

I don't think it is something that will happen all in an instant (like how I would wake up when I was 6, 7, 8, and 9 and think "I don't feel any different today than I do yesterday") I think its a slow progression.

But then again, when I became completely, 100% financially independent I felt like a grown-up.

I still have yet to reach this point, but when I do is the time when I will feel completely grown up.

My Aunt says that you are an adult when you buy your own toilet paper. LOL

Mason, my italics won't end even though I think I am formatting it correctly. Don't I need to put the HTML tag before and after what I want to have in Italics?

I just fixed it for you

you have to put a closing italics tag at the end. It's a tag that contains a '/i' instead of just an 'i'