Non-religious arguments against gay marriage
I have read some comments on this site that would lead me to believe that people believe that there are no non-religious reasons to ban gay marriage. I say otherwise. I do not know what peopleÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s specific arguments for it here are, so I will start by countering some of the main points that I have been hearing else where.
The most prevalent argument that I hear is that homosexual couples wish to have the rights of being considered family, especially where hospital emergencies and inheritance issues are concerned. I would argue that if they really love each other that much, then they would take the steps necessary to secure those rights, even if they cannot be officially married. The problem of not being able to see each other in the case of a medical emergency is solved by signing the proper papers ahead of time, which would designate the partners as each otherÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s next of kin. Legally I could make anyone I wanted my next of kin, thus given the same rights as a family member. If that is not enough to satisfy the inheritance issue also, then I would propose that the couple write a will. Heterosexual couples even generally also go through the process of making a will. I think that it should also be noted that even in the case of a traditional marriage one spouse can fill out a will that would prohibit everything from being left to the other. A husband can just as easily leave everything to his favorite pet as he can to his wife.
I have also heard that gay couples wish to have an official ceremony that friends and family may attend. There is no law against arranging such a gathering. People invite friends and family to second weddings all of the time. In the LDS culture many couples perform ring ceremonies. I do not see why they cannot participate in these activities already.
There is also the argument that scientifically we find that homosexuality is a natural response to overpopulation, and so we should not fight so hard against policies having to do with it. I will quickly agree that the studies are accurate, but also point out that we find that disease and cannibalism are at least equally common responses to the same problem. I am not trying to compare homosexuality to disease or cannibalism in any way. However, I would say that until we stop fighting disease and legalize cannibalism, I see this as an invalid argument to support the gay community.
I see gay marriage as a socially bad move. For instance there is the problem of employers being required to provide health insurance for both partners. In some cases this would seem like a good thing, but in reality it would be too large a stress on the institution of family coverage. I believe that suddenly non-traditional couples would pop up everywhere to reap the benefits of such a situation. Under this plan, though I am heterosexual, I could become bound to another female simply to supply or gain those benefits. I also believe that family coverage is largely to support children, which currently most homosexual couples do not have. For those who have left school and moved on to the world of a career, I would ask how hard it would be to provide health care for two people without plans of having young ones. Though a science major, I do not have to prove to anyone the physical limitations posed to homosexual couples trying to have children, so the idea of preparing for an accident would also be irrelevant to them.
That brings me to my next argument. Once allowed to be officially married, homosexual couples will more than likely be able to adopt. I do not doubt the pure love that these couples would show a child, and I do not doubt their pure intentions. I do believe in the natural drive toward wanting to have children. Yet, I also know that it has been shown that children who are deprived of the parenting of one gender have a very strong tendency toward emotional and/or psychological problems. These issues will affect their entire life. In the situation of a homosexual couple, who is trying to prove their validity as able parents, I fear that the children may not be offered the help that they would desperately need. To be honest, I believe that if you look, that you will find that nearly all gay men, that were not victims of abuse, came from an unhealthy parenting situation themselves. A situation of either the lack of one parent or one parent was extremely domineering in the relationship.
I know that this may be called a religious argument, and I almost do not include it, but the family truly is the foundation of society. The ability of any species to procreate and raise young according the process that they can achieve maximum fitness is the goal that brings survival. In some species maximum fitness is reached through promiscuity and fast weaning of young. The human race thrives on monogamy and long-term parental care, which is found in healthy families. Any reasonably intelligent person knows that a child is better off when raised by a mother and father, who can be examples of love to them, and can offer the best that both genders have to give. I did not grow up in Utah surrounded by LDS people, and I saw that other people knew this. In high school we had a class project to create a Utopia. One group, composed of all non-LDS and not even necessarily strongly religious students, created a world with loving families. They went to the extreme of actually banning homosexuality, but that was not what was striking about their world. They wanted a place where a mother would be a homemaker and a father would work hard for the family, then return home at night. I do not wish to get into arguments involving womenÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s rights to work or Fathers being options for homemakers. I do wish to point out that gay marriage would rock the foundations of a world trying to support a more healthy family situation. Families are the foundation of society. All of the people in the world, great and small, man and woman, came from some kind of family, and that family has helped to shape who they are and what they have become.
I do not claim that this is an all inclusive list of reasons to be opposed to gay marriage, but for those who did not think that there was one valid, non-religious thought against it, this is a start.