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"If I have to explain it, never mind."

Here's a funny commentary I heard on NPR today by author Lori Gottlieb who claims that women aren't actually better communicators than men. (From NPR's page you'll have to click the listen link to actually hear it.)

She's basically saying that, in relationships, men are the ones who are ready and willing to communicate while women tend to be more of the attitude that, "if I have to explain it, never mind." There's some definite truth to what she's saying. I think that another example of this are the strange roommate issues girls seem to be plagued with--where they offend one another, refuse to talk about it, and grow into enemies while continuing to pretend that everything's fine.

On another note, it's interesting that the NPR commentator ignores marriage entirely, acting as though boyfriend-girlfriend relationships are the only thing out there. (Another example of the liberal bias us conservatives always complain about on NPR.)


Did you happen to consider that maybe the commentator is single?

Another example?

What was the first one?

All you have to do is turn on the radio.

My dad calls NPR "Radio Beijing." Bleeding-heart liberals listen to it while they read the New York Times, watch network news, and kid themselves that the democratic party is progressive.

I like NPR. Maybe I just lik

I like NPR. Maybe I just like hearing things from a different point of view. Except, whenever the Diane Rehm show, I think to myself, "that woman has got to be ninety years old!" Sometimes it's funny when she mishears things her guests say and starts to freak out until she realizes that ISN'T what they said.

Single or not makes little di

Single or not makes little difference here because she frames her comments in the context of the average American couple.

I feel a little ridiculous going this in-depth on something so small, but here goes:

First off, she starts off with the example scenario "played out in bedrooms nation-wide". Now if we're talking about a typical bedroom conversation between a man and a woman, you'd think she would consider married couples to be more the norm than unmarried ones--if for no other reason than the sheer number of married couples out there versus dating couples. (The baby-boomers alone would tip the scale.) But, she follows up the scenario with "well there's a reason the poor guy didn't know, his girlfriend didn't tell him!" At this point I'd say most listeners--even outside of happy valley--were probably assuming it was a married couple just because of the typical conversation "played out in bedrooms nation-wide" line, but then she surprises the listener with the "his girlfriend didn't tell him."

Second, she goes on to say, "first she'll withhold conversation, then she'll withhold sex."--implying that not only is the typical couple just a dating couple, but that they're also having sex on a regular basis. And this could very well be true of the average dating couple, but in this case she's even further limiting her implied definition of the average American couple to being not only boyfriend-girlfriend, but to also be having sex regularly.

Never in the whole piece does she acknowledge that this is a problem for married people too. I'd say that since married couples outnumber dating couples by quite a bit, they deserve to at least be mentioned.

It's funny. For coming from a socially liberal angle she makes no attempt to be inclusive with her remarks--not even of the majority.

Also, I said "another example" because it's common knowledge that conservatives see NPR as being quite liberally biased and often complain about it. I wasn't saying that I'd personally pointed out NPR biases before.

I like NPR too, mainly for Mo

I like NPR too, mainly for Morning Edition and All Things Considered.

Back like 8 years ago they used to have this other guy who sounded even worse than Diane Rehm. The funny thing was that he wasn't a show-host or reporter or anything. All he did was announce things during all those non-commercial commercial breaks public radio so loves. The guy sounded terrible. I couldn't see why they let him stick around.

Now that I think about it, he may have just been local to the Austin affiliate.

Diane Rehm is pretty cute

for an oldish person.

check her out:

she's not that old though. she's just had come throat

good frick

what have I done? ... hopefully I don't cause us to veer-off on too much of a tangent here. Maybe I should have left-out my NPR jab.

Didn't she have a stroke, as

Didn't she have a stroke, as well? I believe that is why she talks so slowly. Still sharp as a tack, though.


Yes, you should have left out the NPR jab.

Gee, when did having a live-in girlfriend become a liberal position? Is that in the Democratic platform somewhere? Are there no single Conservatives with that arrangement? Have the Republicans proposed an amendment to outlaw it yet? I'm married - does that make me a Conservative? If I read an article about husbands who snore too much - is that evidence of Conservative bias?

Thank you, Laurence. You sai

Thank you, Laurence. You said what I was thinking, but better than how I was thinking it.